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Heather Hay Charron 🇨🇦's avatar

Thank you, Nancy, for sharing this. It takes a lot of fortitude and a lot of practice to live in the present, I believe. But I have also experienced the pain and folly of trying to live in the past or the future. The present is where we find the joy, even when it hurts.

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Nancy E. Holroyd, RN's avatar

Yes! This is what I have discovered. The wild thing, is Sheila never had to discover this--she just lived it always.

I appreciate your thoughtful insight.

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JL Tooker's avatar

I've never easily found my way walking solely in the present, but I am learning to put one foot in front of the other...soulfully...thanks to reminders from thoughtful people like you.

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Nancy E. Holroyd, RN's avatar

Thank you for sharing your experience. Living in the present is a lot easier said then done.

While Sheila was alive she was a constant and steady reminder and guide for living in the present. I have to work a lot harder at it since her death.

But step at a time...

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Esther Stanway-Williams's avatar

Your spirit guide…I love how Sheila has become this. And identify so strongly with it too. I feel as if Dom anchors me now…which is weird because losing him felt so destabilising at first. Our child came from us and never actually leaves is how I see it now. A lovely post Nancy 🥰

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Nancy E. Holroyd, RN's avatar

Yes, this explanation works for me, Esther

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Nancy A's avatar

Thank you for this beautiful, honest reflection on how to keep living and holding the precious memories forever in your heart.

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Nancy E. Holroyd, RN's avatar

Thank you, Nancy A

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Tracy Mansolillo's avatar

Nancy, thank you for sharing this beautiful reflection and the wisdom learned from your daughter. When my son was critically ill for many years I learned the importance of presence, albeit difficult on many days. I’ve been blessed to see him regain his health and vowed to live a life of presence in gratitude for his healing.

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Nancy E. Holroyd, RN's avatar

Thank you for sharing a bit of your journey. It is amazing what we can learn from our children. I'm glad your son is doing well now.

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